Let me ask you this: are you satisfied with where you are in life?
Chances are good that most of you will answer with “yes and no.”
And that’s because while yes, life may be good at the moment – you can cover the costs of life as you’re living it, you’re fairly happy with your job, you’ve got a decent car, etc – and yet at the same time, you’re still for more.
More money, more time, more freedom, maybe more love in your life. But whatever your “more” wish is, doesn’t matter; what matters is that it exists in the first place. And that, my friend, is why you’re in need of a mindset shift.
What a lot of people never really grasp in life is the fact that having a healthy mindset is what dictates your overall satisfaction and success in life, 100%.
But what do you do if you aren’t sure how to have a healthy mind or, worse, you have a negative mindset?
First, chances are good that you’ll complain a lot, and be stressed and miserable, and maybe even take it out on the people around you with your attitude.
Second, if you’re smart, you’ll recognize the problem and try hard to find some solid solutions to teach you how to develop a healthy mind and maintain an overall healthy mentality.
So let’s break down that second one into some actual, actionable things that you can start doing today to get that good mindset going, consistently.
What Is A Healthy Mindset?
What I mean by a healthy mindset is essentially creating a constant state of being where your mind is in exactly the place that you want it to be.
When you’ve got a negative mindset instead of a healthy mindset, you’re pessimistic.
That voice in your head is always complaining about something, telling you that you could have done better, maybe even causing you to criticize others when they aren’t at fault but you’re actually just feeling guilty about your own failures or shortcomings.
A healthy mindset, in contrast, is a mental state where the here and now is your focus, but you are (almost) always looking at it from the positive or appreciative side of things.
You might even call it a “silver lining” mentality if you will.
When you can make yourself constantly view things from a “well, it could always be worse” perspective, you’ll find that suddenly the things you thought were horrible aren’t really all that bad after all.
Let’s say you hit something on the way to work and needed to have the bumper and hood of your car replaced.
With a negative mindset, you’d complain about the cost, the inconvenience, maybe go so far as to say your car is a piece of junk (which obviously isn’t the root cause of the problem here). Or maybe even disregard the fact that people make mistakes and blame your driving ability.
With a positive mindset, you’ll acknowledge that the cost is not what you had planned on at the moment, but hey, at least you got that scratched bumper fixed, and at least the paint chipping off the edge of your car hood isn’t a problem anymore!
You’ll know when you’ve finally achieved a consistently positive, healthy mindset when you realize that you don’t really complain that much anymore, and when you don’t feel stressed and angry all the time.
Does A Healthy Body Mean A Healthy Mind?
Well, no, but it definitely helps (and the reverse of that is helpful too).
How many people do you know who complain about how they need to lose weight, or get in shape, or similar?
I’d bet quite a few.
But how many do you know who actually ARE in really good shape but still complain, and you’ve got no choice but to roll your eyes in disbelief and jealousy when they say they still aren’t in shape?
I’d still bet it’s at least a few.
It’s not their fault though – they’re the perfect example of how you can have a healthy body but a negative, unhealthy mindset at the same time.
When you can’t be satisfied by things the way that they are, you’ll find yourself with a negative mindset.
That said, I do want to point out the fact that the healthier you are, the more likely you are to be able to achieve a healthy mindset about life.
Why is that? Because you’ve got one less thing to complain about, and that one thing tends to be one of the harder things in life for most people to get under control.
When things “go right,” you appreciate that. That makes you happier, and that releases neurotransmitters in your brain that just make you feel better about things in general. It’s just plain science, and science is rad like that.
Tips For A Healthy Mindset
If you’re searching for some best practices for a healthy mind, you’ve found them. Here’s a list of 7 of the best, most surefire ways to keep your brain leaning towards happy, so you can build a good mindset that sticks around.
1. Stop and assess where you are in life.
This might be easier said than done for some people, but the first step towards flexing your healthy mindset muscle is knowing where you are versus where you’re going.
Taking a critical look at what actions have put you in your current place, as well as where you’d like to be in the future, will help you get a better handle on things.
Answer some of these questions, as best you can:
- Am I happy? Why or why not?
- What do I wish was different? Why do I wish it was different?
- Where did I hope to be by now? What went wrong?
- What could I have done differently in the past to have better stayed on track? How can I apply that learning to future actions or decisions?
- What things are “weighing me down” and keeping me feeling unhappy? How can I let go of those?
- What do I need to do differently, starting today, to start seeing my life turn into what I wish it could be?
- Why do I feel like this is the path in life that I’m supposed to be on? What else can I do to make sure I’m successful?
2. Believe in yourself.
One of the most common reasons why people feel unhappy in life is because they think of themselves as failures, at least in some area or another.
And that “belief in failure” comes from themselves, no one else.
“But wait,” you say, “what if someone keeps telling me or making me believe that I am a failure?”
Well, there’s two answers to that: first, maybe it’s true that you actually do keep failing at something. With a few exceptions, it might well be partially your fault for not being willing (ie committed) to find out how to fix that and learn how to have success in that area.
Second, and the far more likely explanation, is that you are letting yourself believe what another person says about you, without question.
And that, in itself, is most likely the root of all of your problems.
If you can convince yourself to believe in yourself, telling yourself daily that you are smart enough, capable enough, and determined enough, then you can honestly, literally do anything that you put your mind to.
3. Start adopting an abundance mindset.
You might be wondering what an abundance mindset even is. All it indicates, simply put, is the mentality that you CAN have “the finer things” in life, that you WILL have those things because you are willing to work for them, and that you ARE worthy of all the good things life has to offer.
Simply put, you’re of the mindset that you deserve abundance, that you’ll have abundance, simply because you believe that both of those statements are true.
Let me reiterate.
You DESERVE abundance, and so you’ll HAVE abundance.
Say that to yourself daily. On repeat constantly until you believe it.
4. Find a hobby that makes you genuinely happy.
This might seem odd, but everyone needs something to do that just plain feels good.
Maybe you’re totally into woodworking. Start making things to sell on Craigslist then. That way you can justify the cost of doing the work, but still, reap the benefit of the joy it brings you.
Maybe you’re an avid runner. Then lace up and get moving!
It doesn’t really matter if it’s a hobby that you’d do alone or with friends; what matters is how you feel while you’re in the moment, because that simple break from any and all negativity to be completely and totally happy is better than any medication for making you feel amazing.
5. Learn to embrace and “be in the moment” more often.
It’s amazing how many people can appear to be happy in a given moment but their mind is running full tilt on something totally different and it’s eating away at them.
A mother getting her picture taken with her new baby might be smiling for the camera but thinking about how much she hates this because she’s still carrying baby fat on her.
A workaholic father might be proud of his son for his great hit at his baseball game, but in the back of his mind, he’s making a running list of the things he needs to tackle for work tomorrow as soon as they get home.
And you, sitting here reading this, might well think that you’re just lounging on your couch and taking a well-deserved break, but obviously, there’s something on your mind or you wouldn’t be looking for ways to feel happier. #truth
Instead of worrying, stop and think about this for a minute: you are exactly where you are for a reason. And unless you’re literally dead (in which case… how are you even reading this?) then things could always be worse.
Today is all that matters, because we all know tomorrow is not a given.
Hug your dog, call your mom, and congratulate someone on a promotion, engagement, or new baby without jealousy on your heart.
6. Focus on what you can control, and let the rest go.
There are a lot of things in life that are going to come out of practically nowhere and blindside you.
Guess what? Just learn to roll with it. You’ll find a way to get back on your feet and get going again, I’m sure of it.
Energized and motivated, or committing to taking action towards your dream life, are things that you can control. And so you SHOULD control them.
If you want to buy a brand new car, well you sure can’t control your salary but you can control where and how you spend it. Make a budget, be smart with your money, and you’ll have those keys in hand before you know it.
If you want to become a famous singer, practice every minute that you can, get a vocal coach if you need to, start a YouTube channel — do whatever you can to get better, get your name out there, and see yourself on that stage.
No one ever “got discovered” by sitting in their house quietly.
7. Learn from your failures and learn to let go.
Refer back to the second tip we talked about — believing in yourself.
If every time you fail at something you’re hard on yourself, critical of your self-worth, and generally just a Negative Nancy, how can you possibly improve the next time around?
You HAVE to learn how to look at failures critically — not in the sense of being critical of yourself, but in the sense of objectively looking at what went right and, more importantly, what went wrong.
This is truly a simple but powerful abundance mindset exercise that gives you the best chance of having things go your way in the future, because it gives you EXACTLY what you need to succeed in the future!
In addition, once you know HOW to succeed in the future, the fact that you failed in the past no longer matters, because it won’t be repeated. #facts
The Importance of A Healthy Mind
The reason why all of this matters is because let’s face it, your happiness is at stake.
Anything other than a healthy mindset or an abundance mindset means you’ll be just like everyone else you know — stressed, occasionally miserable, and dead sure that you’ll never get what you wanted out of life.
Ain’t nobody got time for that noise.
Work on these tips, one for every day of the week if you need to, and get your mind right.
You owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself. Don’t let something as silly as your brain stop you.
What part of adopting a healthy mindset do you struggle with the most? Which of these tips are you going to use to change that?
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